HEALING THE EMPATH
HEALING THE EMPATH | Beautiful empath, healing feels counterintuitive. It may feel weird or foreign or even scary to "be mean". You may even feel like you are doing something "bad" when you speak your mind, place a boundary, or begin to individuate - to live out your own expectations and standards for your life. Fear not. The inner child within you is your wise leader. If you have not yet connected with your inner child, EarthTribe, now is the time. Think of the most impactful time of your life when you were made to feel powerless. Likely this memory was with a parent, but it could've been with any family member or caregiver when you felt like you had to "be good" or else. The little child you were did not have the knowledge, words, support, or ability to understand the narcissistic and toxic behaviors of the adult(s) in your life, so how could you possibly defend yourself? It was at this time, however, that you learned certain protective mechanisms to please and placate the authority figures in your life. It was at this time that you learned valuable skills that got you successfully through many years of suffering. We love how wise this child was at such a young age. They learned not only to survive years of mental and emotional abuse, but to keep their heart in tact while doing so. While having an open heart may seem more like a curse than a blessing at times, it is the hardened and heartless that suffer the most. As an adult now, you can look back at this little boy or little girl, to empathize with their innocence, their confusion at what was happening, and their need for a loving environment. As an adult, you might imagine this little child still buried deep down within you, hiding, scared, and unprotected. That little child you were needed someone to protect you. You needed someone to see and defend against that which was so well hidden by adults keen at masking their inner demons in front of others and what they did and likely continue to do behind closed doors. That little child is still there, waiting to be loved and kept safe. As an adult, you can heal your inner child by acknowledging him or her, reacquainting yourselves, and becoming the adult you needed at that time. You are the person that little child has been waiting for. And even if you feel unqualified yet, forming the relationship with your inner child is the first healing step. Doing anything in your power is the next. Love your inner child by listening to what they need, including having fun, exploring, creating, imagining, etc... Learn from this wise young soul. Then take that little boy or little girl by their little hand and never let go. Let them know they are now safe with you.
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