IS SOMEONE ISOLATING YOU SO THEY CAN ABUSE YOU IN PEACE?
IS SOMEONE ISOLATING YOU SO THEY CAN ABUSE YOU IN PEACE? | Or perhaps several people? The intent to seclude someone away from others says a lot.
Isolation often occurs slowly, covertly, and in many different ways. For example, someone may isolate you by spreading lies about you. Defamation not only turns family and friends against you, but ruining your reputation can obstruct future relationship and work opportunities, sabotage your business, and destroy your livelihood. Manufactured isolation and financial instability may further be used to paint a picture of your mental incompetency or unfitness for parenting. Because defamation often occurs in environments you are not in, you must use your intuition to perceive it. It also helps to become aware of the subtle signs.
Those who covertly sabotage or who believe lies about you may become distant, may leave the room when you enter, or may no longer look you in the eye. They may no longer connect with you at a deeper level and stick to quick or surface level interactions. You may pick up on an awkwardness in their energy when they are around you, but not others. You may also notice one day that your entire community, family and closest friends, not only avoid you, but never check up on you. Wouldn’t it be strange if everyone you knew just fell off the face of the earth, never to be heard from again? Yet, this is the reality of someone who has been isolated to the point of being socially erased. To abuse you in peace, the landscape must be such that no one cares enough about you to inquire. Those who isolate also do so to break your spirit so you will need them, a dependency created to boost their ego and ensure narcissistic supply. The soul-destroying nuances of this reality are unfathomable to experience and to, therefor, accept. Not only are isolation tactics hidden from you and others, but accepting that everyone you know either no longer loves or cares about you, or is actively working toward your downfall, is a pill nearly impossible to swallow. Creating an environment such that you do not know who you can trust is abuse which gets you to reinforce your own isolation. For all these reasons and more, isolation is used by some sick-minded individuals to produce one’s suicide. This hands-off approach to murder keeps their hands clean. Isolation is a psychological torture technique used in prisons and in times of war. If you have had a strong knowing or gut feeling, if you sense things have been off for some time, or your reality is simply evident that you are being isolated - stop doubting what you perceive. Stop doubting yourself.
Isolation may also occur by someone expecting, pressuring, or threatening you to stay silent about what they do. This often occurs in situations of abuse (mental/emotional, verbal, physical, financial, spiritual), as well as situations of criminal activity. Someone making you believe that you must do what they say is mind control. A person or group may also use your beliefs to get you to justify their abuse (such as your belief in commitment to a marriage or to a religion) to get you to buy into and accept their control over your life. Abusers and criminals who isolate do so for a reason, and that is because they have something to gain from it. They want and need you to keep their secrets and are empowered by your silence. Your social and physical disappearance enables them to hide their malevolence, their criminal activity, and their closet skeletons.
The first step in getting out is to see your situation clearly for what it is and to radically accept it. Identify what parts of your situation you may be consciously or unconsciously accepting or agreeing to. Know what is within your control and what is not, to discern your options moving forward. Ask your higher power for clear guidance and next steps forward and follow your intuition. For those whose safety may be at risk, you may need to get the law involved, seek help from community resources, and/or move in silence. Stay aware of the manipulation, yet prioritize your resiliency and focus upon your positive movement forward. Remember that fear is used to control people. Break out of fear by actively loving and consistently choosing yourself. Stay close to your higher power - you are never alone. Mentally dethrone manipulative tyrants and anyone else you may have placed on a pedestal in your mind. Leave or begin disentangling yourself from those who seek to dominate and control you. They may gaslight, lash out, or accuse you of isolating yourself. Rebel anyways, balancing wisely your safety and freedom.
There comes a point where energy is wasted upon a toxic situation. People who behave this way are not interested in healing or growth, they are interested in controlling and have ulterior motives for doing so. When you are ready to get out, stand firmly in your sovereignty and claim your independence - it is not theirs to take. They know that if they can control your mind, they can control you, so direct your thoughts toward your strength, courage, perseverance and your limitless spirit. Only you can give your power away. Know who you are, do not accept less than you deserve, and NEVER give up on yourself.
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